you can force all folders to be "my way or the highway"
I really can't.

I can reliably get Windows to let me make certain changes, like showing hidden files and not hiding extensions, but I can't make it always show me the file tree or always default to the Details view.
Seriously, if I could force the file dialog boxes (like Save File, Open File, etc) to NEVER show me thumbnails, I'd consider that a pretty big victory. Got to take what you can get. Man, you go to save an image to a directory that's already got a few hundred images, and that dialog box is a
dog, even if Explorer's set to cache thumbnails. I don't want the damned thumbnails. At the resolutions I use, I'll recognize the file by its name long before I'll recognize the thumbnail.
It'd also save me a lot of time if I could convince Explorer not to look ahead when I'm expanding directories. If a directory has forty subdirectories, and each of them has a bunch of files, and I try to open that directory . . . Explorer grinds to a halt while Windows tries to load all that directory information ahead of time in case I want to go look at the subdirectories. Load it when I get there. You don't need to pre-read the encyclopedia; I'm probably only going to look at a few articles.
Of course, why preloading directory information should be such a task that it slows down the machine is a whole other stupid issue. And, yeah, I have Fast Indexing turned off, although occasionally I have to turn it off again. The Windows Search tool is such utter complete crap that I sometimes go looking for free replacements, but the last decent one I found doesn't work properly in XP (because it's too old).
Meh!