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Title: the top ten songs that make men cry
Post by: hajen on October 29, 2010, 07:59:29 PM

Title: Re: the top ten songs that make men cry
Post by: random axe on October 29, 2010, 08:38:16 PM

I honestly can't think of a song that makes me cry, or even think of one that has made me cry at any time, although I'm not sure it's never happened.  The most depressing songs are the ones strongly associated with ex-girlfriends.

Of that list, Hallelujah is the only one I'd rate as Strongly Moving, but it's basically blues in spirit.  It makes you feel good about feeling bad. 

Everybody Hurts I've always felt was slightly ironic, but I've never heard it on the radio and don't have the album; I've only ever heard it in conjunction with the video.  Still.  Tears in Heaven has a sad story but HE WROTE A FARKING POP SONG ABOUT IT which just makes it WTF to me.  I mean, I guess writing the song is fine and understandable, but releasing it commercially is a little iffy and performing it a lot is just plain creepy to me.  I hadn't heard that he'd stopped playing it, but it would have made more sense, to me, to start playing it publicly when he was done (privately) mourning his kid.  Obviously we have different, uh, dynamics, but that would explain why it doesn't affect me so much, I guess.

Nothing Compares 2 U is catchy but weak for Sinead.  The people in that poll obviously don't know much else by her.  I mean, Black Boys On Mopeds is like 5x as depressing, for starters.  With or Without You is a mediocre song at best and makes a horrible I Can't Care That Much About You Because I'm So Impressed With Me bookend with Still Haven't Found What I'm Looking For.  Not their best work.  Certainly not a tearjerker.

Candle in the Wind?  Sentimental, but hard to take THAT seriously.  We used to sing it as Camel Breaking WindStreets of Philadelphia is less poignant for me than half the stuff on Born in the USAUnchained Melody I like, but I don't think of it as being sad in the first place.

I don't know Drugs Don't Work or Angels.  Oh, is Angels that one popularized by the woman who was singing about some US tragedy (Columbine?)?  She sounds sad; it's affecting.  Wouldn't make me cry, personally.  If that's not it, then I don't know it.


In the interest of full disclosure, much to my surprise I did once start crying in the middle of a large airliner on a flight to Boston when I was reading the last few pages of Bridge of Birds, so I'm not saying I'm made of stone.
Title: Re: the top ten songs that make men cry
Post by: mo on October 30, 2010, 08:08:10 AM
For me there's not a particular style of song that makes me cry, it's more about context, and I wouldn't say "cry" as much as get teary-eyed. And that generally comes from listening to songs by artists that died too young - Hendrix, Lennon, Dimebag, etc etc etc. The other category would be songs that remind me of a particular time with a particular person, and that fades with time. The deliberately constructed sad song thing really turns me off.
Title: Re: the top ten songs that make men cry
Post by: hajen on October 30, 2010, 09:03:59 AM
I was trying to figure out what songs that make me cry, but I actually discovered the songs that make me cry are more about the videos for the songs and I guess if I ever cry at the songs themselves it's because of the association with the video. So my short list is:

Sarah McLachlan - World On Fire
John Lennon - Watching the Wheels
Mary J. Blige - No More Drama
REM - Everybody Hurts

and then sometimes, if it's late at night and I'm driving, Mad World by Gary Jules.

I went and watched the videos again last night to test if I really do cry at the song or the video and my husband was laughing at me as I sat through the Sarah McLachlan one. The waterworks started up like within 30 seconds.  :lol:
Title: Re: the top ten songs that make men cry
Post by: mybabysmomma on October 30, 2010, 09:14:28 AM
For some reason Amazing Grace always weeps me up.
Title: Re: the top ten songs that make men cry
Post by: TFJ on October 30, 2010, 10:10:08 AM
today i started loving you again gits me.
Title: Re: the top ten songs that make men cry
Post by: mo on October 30, 2010, 01:51:24 PM
I was listening to Patsy Cline the other night, and I started thinking about who her target audience was, or who the songs were written for. In a way, it almost sounds like poor white women's blues, like a woman would enjoy listening to another woman commiserating with her, but then after years of listening to Patsy, it finally dawned on me that her songs are what men would like to think women sing about them.  :P

It's interesting that of the songs that fit this category the best, the writer is male - Hank Cochran.
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Title: Re: the top ten songs that make men cry
Post by: flipper on November 03, 2010, 04:55:34 PM
Anything by Rod Stewart, Michael Jackson, Phil Collins, The Bee Gees, or Joe Cocker will make me cry as I try to excise my cochleas.  Oh wait, that's not you meant.

The only one I can think of right off the top of my head is Harry Chapin's Cats in the Cradle.